The Mourner's Code

"The Mourner's Code: Ten Self-Compassionate Principles" is taken from Alan D. Wolfelt, PhD's book, "Healing Your Grieving Heart."

I thought maybe it may help some of you begin to believe that your grieving pattern is normal for you. Everyone grieves differently and you are no exception. (Or maybe we're all exceptions.)

THE MOURNER'S CODE

Ten Self-Compassionate Principles

 1.  You have the right to experience your own unique grief.

 2.  You have the right to talk about your grief.

 3.  You have the right to feel a multitude of emotions.

 4.  You have the right to be tolerant of your physical and emotional limits.

 5.  You have the right to experience "grief bursts."

 6.  You have the right to make use of ritual.

 7.  You have the right to embrace your spirituality.

 8.  You have the right to search for meaning.

 9.  You have the right to treasure your memories.

10.  You have the right to move toward your grief and heal.